Recently life has given me a crash course on acceptance. My son told us he was going to make a major life decision that felt like a failure to us. After integrating the pain and shock, I communicated my acceptance and support to whatever decision he would make. Accepting whatever gifts life gives you, even painful lessons. Deep down I know my son will come out of the adversity stronger and live a successful life.
It was a major awakening to me. I realized how much I wasn’t accepting life’s twists and turns and others’ behaviors. Acceptance is a moment-to-moment decision we need to practice constantly, such as letting go of expectations, shoulds, should nots. I become keenly aware of each non-accepting moment and whatever difficult emotions arise, then I penetrate and rewire them with empowered emotions. For instance, from resentment to grateful. It feels so good to realize how much teaching Movement Feedback has helped me to be enlightened with acceptance. The high vibrational emotional states I provide as reference points in class are so readily accessible to me. With so much practice of dropping thoughts and mental chatters, rewiring remaining negative thoughts can be done relatively easily.
We create our own reality. Whatever emotions we feel will generate more of the same. All the difficult emotions were based on illusions away from love. By rewiring with empowered emotions, we train our happiness muscles.
I love Tedtalks and wisdom shared by so many speakers. Michelle Charfen’s talk on acceptance and the quotes she cites resonate with me in many aspects.
“Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart …”
-Ritu Ghatourey
In Movement Feedback, I help you connect to the heart and experience deep silence in your body. I give you feedback on your energy patterns and give you instructions to move in various ways to release stressful and painful emotions stuck in the body.
Coronavirus pandemic has caused so many people to lose jobs and experience extreme financial hardship. The situations are so real and painful. Nevertheless, only when we face difficulty and accept it, then we can take actions to make the best out of the situations. In a few years, we may find this experience so valuable and how you handle the situations is something to be proud of.
In the last post, we talk about define life purpose and inspirational goals. Accepting where you are as the starting point is the key to actualize your vision, according to Karl Wolfe.
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
-Carl Rogers
“Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.”
-Michael J. Fox
Michelle Charfen’s advice:
- Slow down
- Awareness
- Cultivate the beliefs that you can change
- Decide what matters to you. Instead of running away from fears, Start walking towards what you want
- When you’ve gone astray, accept, repair, center
Visualize yourself accept the most difficult thing that you don’t accept right now, see yourself accept it with calm and inner strength to go through it and end up stronger, then take necessary actions.
Come to integrate emotions causing non-acceptance and experience deep acceptance in Movement Feedback classes.
That was really beautiful, Joan. 🙂
Thank you, Sheryn!